They say that life begins at the end of your comfort zone, and I don't think that phrase could be any truer. Putting yourself out there, declaring what you want in life and then going after it takes courage.
It can be scary to do something that you're not comfortable with, but at the end of the day there are three solid reasons why you should:
1. If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it
2. If you don't ask the answer will always be no
3. If you don't take a step forward, you'll always be in the same place
Melissa Ambrosini, author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, phrases the act of not stepping outside your comfort zone as choosing comfort over courage, and if she did that she wouldn't have achieved a lot of the things she's must proud of.
She wouldn't have written two books, started a podcast, got married, or walked out on stage to motivate thousands of women.
So how can you start to slowly step outside your comfort zone? Here are five tips we've found that could help you muster up that courage and turn goals into reality
1. Figure out what it is that you want
It all starts with a goal. Write down what it is that you want in life. It could be one thing or it could be ten things. For example, it could be: to be fit and healthy and live a long life. Now think about what's stopping you. Is it that you're intimidated by the gym? Are you overwhelmed and don't know where to start? Figure out what's standing in your way and move onto step 2.
2. Do something little each day
Nothing huge will happen overnight, the change will be slow and it will require you to chip away each day. Now that you know what's stopping you, come up with a plan for how you are going to slowly chip away at the road block. If you're intimidated by the gym, research home or outdoor workouts. If you want to write a book but say you don't have time, actively schedule in some time each week dedicated to writing.
3. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable
There's no magic pill for this, the only way is to get uncomfortable as many times as you can. Any opportunity that you would naturally steer away from, say 'yes' instead. Whether it's going to the gym, going on a blind date, speaking in front of a heap of strangers. The more you expose yourself to these types of uncomfortable situations, the more comfortable they'll become
4. Tell a friend
Spill your goals to a close, trusted friend and let them know that you would like their support. If your friends are as good as mine, they will check in with you to see how you're going and hold you accountable to what you've said you want to do. They might even come to the gym with you, or help you figure out what to wear on your blind date and help the uncomfortable be a little more bearable.
5. Switch things up
They say a change is a good as a holiday, and I'll tell you what, there is nothing that gets me feeling more motivated for change than switching up the layout of my bedroom/home and a good spring cleaning. If this kind of change is not the thing to give you more motivation, you could try getting a new haircut, or buying a new outfit.
The point is, the external change can influence how we feel internally, the small change of your bedroom layout, or your new outfit can help flip your mindset into being more open to change
Hopefully these five tips will help put to bed any excuses you've had about stepping into the uncomfortable.
Do you disagree with any of these tips? We'd love to hear if you have any that have worked for you, comment below.